• Reigniting the Energy of the Child Inside

    When you look back do you remember your childhood as a golden childhood? A special time where life was lived intensely with greater vitality?

    As we grow up, involved in and identified with different roles and goals, we often lose track of what made our childhood so alive and beautiful. This is why we often remember our childhood as a golden age. But in reality, circumstances were not very much different, nor were greater things happening outside when we were young. There was however, a different quality of being in our lives from which we became disconnected as we lost the capacity of just being in the moment, instead constantly distracted by past dwelling and future anticipation.

    What has happened that we cannot live that quality now?

    If we don’t settle for the typical replies such as ‘having to take responsibility’, ‘lack of time’, ‘being under the pressure of day-to-day living’, etc., but penetrate deeper, it can be very rewarding. Deep inside, many people are in anguish and agony; but instead of taking the necessary initiative to confront it and to clear it, they try to cover it up on the outside with makeup or an artificial youthful appearance. This misunderstanding and clinging to a youthful ideal—often in vain—can be a tragic sight. All this, simply because of a lack of understanding of our real nature.

    Because a child has not yet become entangled in some goal, in some personality, she lives much more in the present, with a greater intensity and totality. A child is not caught in an idea of who she is, and therefore is not entangled in trying to defend that role, defend that idea. Because a child is not caught in any fixed role, there is an openness, a receptivity, an availability that preserves one’s very aliveness. A child lives in totality—one moment crying because of a hurt, the next moment eyes shining full of wonder and joy, face beaming with an overflowing smile because something happens that enchants her. The tears may even still be there, may not have even dried up, may even be flowing still, but the child’s whole expression has changed, the face lighting up! The child does not feel it as a conflict and doesn’t think, “only a moment before I was crying, now how can I laugh?”  A child does not hold onto any specific idea or image about itself and is in a state of letting go and being in the flow.

    By not clinging blindly to goals and roles adults can unlearn and allow the flow

    This quality of the child reveals a deep openness to nature with its spontaneous totality. To the contrary, the adult has become so goal-oriented, so fixed on some identity or image, that the effort to maintain this image occupies his whole time and energy. There are rarely moments of receptivity where existence can nourish and rejuvenate him in a really deep way. For too many, the elder they grow, the less and less alive they become, often losing all vitality, joy, and grace—which need not be the case at all!

    Rather than becoming settled into one role or another, we can learn to apply the unique potential which we as human beings carry within us—the capacity to observe ourselves without having always to be identified with some aspect or another and be imprisoned in it. In this way we can observe the interplay of polarities and the ways of this mystery in ourselves. The more a person starts understanding and experiencing this inner process, the more he can become available to it consciously. With it something of an inner joy and a greater understanding between human beings, as well as a peacefulness, a silence and grace goes on growing in one's life; even though the body is growing older—something of the inner freshness continues unaffected.

    In the absence of this understanding, modern man has gone very much astray. There is something sad about this—because when the real qualities are not understood and lived, one starts looking for substitutes. Then there is an attempt to cling to an apparent youthfulness, because one has not considered and understood the way of nature of which one is a part. It need not be like that, but often it happens this way. In fact it could happen the other way around—the older a person becomes, with the understanding of the way of nature, the more ripe he can be, becoming deeply alive, more joyous and graceful.


    Adapted from The Vital Harmonizing Phenomenon by Bhaskar Perinchery. Experience the wisdom and guidance of spiritual master Bhashkar Perinchery live and in person this November when Bhashkar visits the U.S. for a series of talks and events hosted by IMU. Learn more and sign up for talks and meditations with Bhashkar or join us November 11-16 in Wisconsin for a special meditation retreat suitable for anyone interested in deepening their meditative practice.


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